I have Huge issues with this one! I cannot call a person out on an obvious lie either. I just let the big fat lie lie there, between us. I know well enough she will never admit to the lie and be insulted that I didn't "believe" her--but it irks me because it makes me look stupid and passive. It is a NO WIN situation. when a friend starts down this path, the trust leaves the relationship. I guess i should call people out, just by suggesting that maybe they are confused, or something. When a close pal lies to you, you know they are angry at you for something weird, like the gift you gave them for their birthday did not please them --why else would they? Either be honest or keep quiet is how I feel, don't make up some dumb bullshit story that sounds bizarre.
PSI mentioned you today --a thank you for the term mofo.
You're so right, it's definitely a lose-lose situation! I can also not get over the fact that it makes me feel like the stupid, dumb, naive person. And I don't know what's worse for me, when people lie about small stuff all the time (so it's natural for them- hate that!) or lie about big stuff (far more impact but also more understandable). I just really detest lies.